Relating to my smartwatch experiment, I finally got my smartwatch to be largely independent from the phone, by the way. Own cellular connection and all that.
I kinda wish it was even more independent but that is not possible with the watches available right now. The positive thing is: I can really leave my phone at home when I am in the garden, going on walks, going to restaurants etc. I can leave my phone in my backpack 99% of the time at work as well, and I can leave it in a designated phone basket where I also leave my keys when I get home.
That means no stress anymore of dropping the phone, losing it, leaving it anywhere, no fiddling with it, no annoyance with how big it is and where to put it, no problem with small pockets that can’t fit a phone… not being rude having to put it on the table, nothing to hold in your hand anymore. All the stuff I mentioned in the other posts.
And no matter if smartphone or dumbphone, most of us usually pat ourselves down to make sure we got our phone with us before we leave. This is especially relevant if you want to feel safe, or need to use apps to navigate public transport, or just want to have a watch, or need to use the flashlight outside, etc.
For me, what I need outside is the ability to call, be reached by text or call, and to see the time. I could technically do without the rest. So being able to just leave without making sure I got the phone and searching it is kinda cool, even though it’s just a small thing. Weirdly enough, it almost feels nostalgic, or like leaving a heavy brick at home. Completely unrealistic and weird, but that’s feelings for ya I guess.
Now with it having its own cellular, I don’t need the phone to call and I can see when my coworkers and friends wanna meet without having to have my phone on me at all times. We meet in front of the cafeteria and not taking my phone with me would cut me off from sudden plan changes (different time different place) and the watch wasn’t in range of the phone; but now I see that without having to carry the phone with me like a clutch.
Also, most stuff on the phone you don’t have to reply to anyway, or can reply with a quick “ok” “yes” or an emoji. For anything bigger than that, I can still get the phone.
And yeah, the phone basket is nice because you can just drop the phone off like a tool you don’t need anymore right now. And if you do wanna get it, there’s the act of having to get up and get it. Kinda keeps you from mindless acts. I don’t technically need that anymore but I am mentioning this as a strategy for others
Sooo… Phone stressors are being avoided, and I get the most out of the smartphone that otherwise would’ve required me to put it on loud or carry it with me at all times or check it often: reminders, alarms, calls, notes like todo lists or habit tracking… you get it
Feels better now to have optimized it like this. There’s just nothing mindless about my current setup and it requires me to be more present and do other stuff, instead of being able to reach the phone quickly or to be grabbing it simply because it is in my field of vision for example. It can really break these ingrained habits of picking up the phone, unlocking, seeing nothing is on it, putting it down and then doing it again that some of you probably struggle with.
I do have to use the phone to adjust some settings or to put in new reminders/alarms etc and this is something I hope will not be the case in the future and the watch can stand entirely on its own regarding that, but it’s a great start.
Also: My phone and watch last incredibly long. My phone lasts more even though there’s the watch connection draining it because I am on it much less. Not having to have it on me means no checking if I might have missed something, means less options to get pulled in. My watch holds up well over the suggested 18 hours, it lasts 2 days, because I really use it for productive stuff and not games or hours long calls.
I don’t use my computer at all at the moment, to be honest. And every time I do have to use it I kind of dread it, because there’s anxiety coming up with it. I am not blaming the computer, just bad old memories that cause these feelings. It’s like bad old behaviors that were toxic to me are connected to that acitivity: sitting in front of the computer all the time. All those nights and days wasted, anxious, feeling guilty, crying, writing about my bad experiences, making awful experiences online, being stressed, using it to cover bad feelings, the overload online, bad news, cruel images… it’s like when I have to sit at home in front of a screen again, the anxiety of that comes back.
I don’t have that at work where I work on a computer as well, mind you. It is really powerful what connections trauma and negative experiences have in your brain.
That’s that for now.