Hi I’m matangi, 27yr. I’ve been attempting a NoSurf lifestyle for a few years now, with limited success, so I thought I’d journal here to try and hold myself a bit more accountable.
Things I have improved, and am proud of:
Charge phone outside bedroom at night and read/talk with my partner for an hour before going to sleep (I only slip on this one a fortnight or so)
Quit reddit. I used to spend several hours a day on there and now I haven’t been on in 2 weeks and not really missing it. I used to kid myself that there was quality content on certain subreddits, but in reality, most of it was repetitive and scrolling through endless comments. Once I was on there I’d end up spending hours scrolling though stupid memes and askreddit threads.
Things I am still struggling with:
Focus at work. My job has changed quite a bit over the last few years. It used to be quite project oriented with clear instructions and it was easy to organise my tasks for each day without getting distracted. I also wasn’t on the computer much. Now I am working on multi-year computer-based projects with very vague guidelines in an area I have to self-teach in, and I spend my days getting distracted by any website I possibly can. Every time I reach a challenge, it is like my brain freaks out and I immediately try to do anything except the task at hand i.e. mindlessly browse. I feel like I’m ruining my career and making a bad reputation for myself in a small industry.
Picking up my phone whenever I am alone in my thoughts (at home, or waiting in a queue etc.) I have lots of hobbies, but these days I find myself reading more online about my hobbies rather than actually doing them!
Things I’m looking for help with:
Does anyone have advice on how to permanently block websites on chrome on an android phone? I want to keep facebook because my sports groups are organised on there, but somehow I end up in the chrome browser on facebook, making myself feel shitty by comparing my life to other people
Does anyone have good techniques for staying focused in jobs that require “deep work” all day long without deadlines to put pressure on not to procrastinate,